I wanted to write today about insecurity and opportunity because I think a lot of us go through periods where we beat ourselves up over the way we look, don’t look, walk, talk, work, don’t work . . . you get the idea. Anyway, we’re so focused on these negative thoughts that we can end up blowing right past terrific opportunities as a result…This requires our attention!!!
I really got behind the “body type philosophy” because it is really about making a “better you” – not changing your shape or trying to make you follow something that is not natural; but rather, re-focusing your efforts to uncover the true you that has ALWAYS been there. This is the “you” that is healthy, confident and can do anything, and I mean that…
I don’t really talk much about the “pre-kids” me. I actually was one of “those people” – you know the type – size 4 pant suit, totally focused on her job, her clients & what was happening within the company. I was running so hard and so fast up the corporate ladder I couldn’t even hear my biological clock ticking. I was so totally focused on my work that I never really even saw myself having kids, getting married or (perish the thought) settling down. I thought I had it all under control when in fact, I was struggling with so many insecurities & so much chaos in my life that it seemed like food and exercise were really the only things I could control. So I did what most of us do – I channeled all of that stress and insecurity into food. For some people that means gaining 100 pounds in 6 months. For me it meant I struggled through diets 365 days a year. Food was my “out” – I couldn’t control what the market did with my business, but I could control how well I stayed on this or that fad diet. However, one thing that nobody really knew about me was that despite my size 4 pant suit and ambiance of “success”, the reality was that I nearly let the best opportunity of my life (my husband) pass right by, because I was so totally focused on “controlling” my own insecurities.
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